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Post by OasisNZ on Sept 12, 2006 20:09:36 GMT 12
What does it mean to you, to be a mother?
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Post by ivyplus on Sept 12, 2006 20:18:07 GMT 12
I coudn't imagine how it would be till my first bundle of Joy. And I have to admit I would of given him back if I could. He was crying for the first three weeks and I had sleepless nights. It was certainly not what I have excepted. Now 24 years later I am a proud mum and I am happy about all of them. The last one stretches my nerves a little bit and I often wonder if I do the right things with her. Time will tell ind the meantime I go by my feeling.
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Post by ladeda on Sept 12, 2006 20:23:15 GMT 12
I'm glad I'm not a mother. I'll leave the hard work to those dedicated mothers that choose to raise the next generation.
I'm glad I live in an era where I do have choice.
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Post by OasisNZ on Sept 12, 2006 21:06:19 GMT 12
I'm glad I'm not a mother. I'll leave the hard work to those dedicated mothers that choose to raise the next generation. I'm glad I live in an era where I do have choice. You would be a great mum ladeda, absolutely no doubt about it!
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Post by ladyp on Sept 13, 2006 21:03:25 GMT 12
I'm glad I'm not a mother. I'll leave the hard work to those dedicated mothers that choose to raise the next generation. I'm glad I live in an era where I do have choice. You would be a great mum ladeda, absolutely no doubt about it! You are a Mother Ladeda........ just not to people babies Motherhood is the most rewarding fulfilling career that I have ever had.........and I have had a few. I did most of it on my own.........himself worked very long hours when the boys were small. I had no family to help with advice or even to give me a break now and then. I never found it a chore.......I just loved being a mother My reward for being a parent is my Grandchildren
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Post by etheldritha on Sept 21, 2006 22:42:47 GMT 12
I am NOT enjoying being a mother at the moment. My two sons are trying me....and I would love to send them off to live with their father!!!!!!!!
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Post by mamamia on Sept 22, 2006 9:12:13 GMT 12
At the time it was very hard work and I just did what had to be done, they have all turned out great and I am really poud of them all (6). I am enjoying my kids as adults now, but the best joy is having all my grandchildren (20) and my two great grandchildren!!! It's a bit hard to say what being a mother meant to me, I just was and loved each of the children as they came along, my husband worked long hours in those days so most of it was up to me, and I got a night job as well to help financially. There is a lot of pride, love and happiness at the moment, and I would hate to be without them now, I could wring their necks sometimes lol but I do love them, I really do
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Post by ivyplus on Sept 22, 2006 21:24:16 GMT 12
I am NOT enjoying being a mother at the moment. My two sons are trying me....and I would love to send them off to live with their father!!!!!!!! How old are they? I have three children too and I remember tuff times. When my first one arrived and cried for three weeks I would of liked to give him back if I could. Another stage was when the second one arrived and the first one got realy jealous. This was difficult too. And another difficult time was the teenage years. Now the two older children are adults and I am happy that I could be their mother. The youngest is now in her teens! I believe a mother is allowed to say that it is not only joy to have children and that you are even sometimes thick of them! But after the teenage years it will get better and you will forget most tuff times! Love
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Post by etheldritha on Sept 23, 2006 18:37:19 GMT 12
The boys are: Ben 15 and Sam 13. Ben is really making poor decisions at the moment and as a result is under my supervision 24/24 hours a day... which really stinks as it is the holidays and it means I DON'T GET MY TIME-OUT! I am very grateful to have a wonderful 'manservant' who is supporting me, keeping me sane and is a great male role model for the boys.
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Post by OasisNZ on Sept 23, 2006 18:44:53 GMT 12
The boys are: Ben 15 and Sam 13. Ben is really making poor decisions at the moment and as a result is under my supervision 24/24 hours a day... which really stinks as it is the holidays and it means I DON'T GET MY TIME-OUT! I am very grateful to have a wonderful 'manservant' who is supporting me, keeping me sane and is a great male role model for the boys. It is so great to hear that you have found a man that is a good role model to your children. We are hard to come by you know, LOL ;D Just remember that he may seem to be too scrict with the children at times, but he is doing it because he loves them, and he loves you.... (at least it seems that way from the words on a screen I have read..........) Good luck Miss Haggitt Heaps, if you ever wanna ship the lads south for a weekend, just let me know ...........
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Post by ivyplus on Sept 23, 2006 22:27:02 GMT 12
The boys are: Ben 15 and Sam 13. Ben is really making poor decisions at the moment and as a result is under my supervision 24/24 hours a day... which really stinks as it is the holidays and it means I DON'T GET MY TIME-OUT! I am very grateful to have a wonderful 'manservant' who is supporting me, keeping me sane and is a great male role model for the boys. It is good that you have your wonderful 'manservant'. I am sure it helps you to get over the difficult times. I hope they grow out of teenage behaviour fast. A while back there was a programm on TV about teens and they said their brain is not yet ready to "see" dangerous situtations unfolding. They can get into deep trouble and recognise it too late. I don't think teens like to hear this statement. They think they know everything. I love looking at teens and thinking - yes, I was once like them.
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Post by misillon on Sept 30, 2006 16:06:26 GMT 12
yeah,...
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Post by ivyplus on Oct 3, 2006 13:39:10 GMT 12
The boys are: Ben 15 and Sam 13. Ben is really making poor decisions at the moment and as a result is under my supervision 24/24 hours a day... which really stinks as it is the holidays and it means I DON'T GET MY TIME-OUT! I am very grateful to have a wonderful 'manservant' who is supporting me, keeping me sane and is a great male role model for the boys. How are the holidays going etheldritha?
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Post by shaaabear on Oct 8, 2006 15:21:45 GMT 12
The boys are: Ben 15 and Sam 13. Ben is really making poor decisions at the moment and as a result is under my supervision 24/24 hours a day... which really stinks as it is the holidays and it means I DON'T GET MY TIME-OUT! I am very grateful to have a wonderful 'manservant' who is supporting me, keeping me sane and is a great male role model for the boys. It is good that you have your wonderful 'manservant'. I am sure it helps you to get over the difficult times. I hope they grow out of teenage behaviour fast. A while back there was a programm on TV about teens and they said their brain is not yet ready to "see" dangerous situtations unfolding. They can get into deep trouble and recognise it too late. I don't think teens like to hear this statement. They think they know everything. I love looking at teens and thinking - yes, I was once like them. yes I do recall watching that programme on tv, certainly food for thought, and certainly hammers home how important the role of parenting is in this day and age. Or any time for that matter. And as for 'I was once like them' Ive lost count of the times Ive observed young people doing things that have rattled my composure only to recall (shudder) having done something similar when I was that or their age.
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Post by ivyplus on Oct 10, 2006 20:25:10 GMT 12
It is good that you have your wonderful 'manservant'. I am sure it helps you to get over the difficult times. I hope they grow out of teenage behaviour fast. A while back there was a programm on TV about teens and they said their brain is not yet ready to "see" dangerous situtations unfolding. They can get into deep trouble and recognise it too late. I don't think teens like to hear this statement. They think they know everything. I love looking at teens and thinking - yes, I was once like them. yes I do recall watching that programme on tv, certainly food for thought, and certainly hammers home how important the role of parenting is in this day and age. Or any time for that matter. And as for 'I was once like them' Ive lost count of the times Ive observed young people doing things that have rattled my composure only to recall (shudder) having done something similar when I was that or their age. I think sometimes as a parent you worry about the children because you remember what you've done when you were their age and the parents didn't know about it.
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Post by shaaabear on Oct 10, 2006 23:32:59 GMT 12
yes I do recall watching that programme on tv, certainly food for thought, and certainly hammers home how important the role of parenting is in this day and age. Or any time for that matter. And as for 'I was once like them' Ive lost count of the times Ive observed young people doing things that have rattled my composure only to recall (shudder) having done something similar when I was that or their age. I think sometimes as a parent you worry about the children because you remember what you've done when you were their age and the parents didn't know about it. Absolutely!
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Post by shaaabear on Oct 16, 2006 20:25:12 GMT 12
Just today my daughter rang me and said "Listen to this mum" next thing I knew my 20 month old granddaughter was on the phone saying "I wuv oooo" Oh the joy, the absolute joy of it all. Would I do at all again? The answer has to be a great big YES!! ;D ;D ;D
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Post by ivyplus on Oct 16, 2006 20:30:39 GMT 12
Just today my daughter rang me and said "Listen to this mum" next thing I knew my 20 month old granddaughter was on the phone saying "I wuv oooo" Oh the joy, the absolute joy of it all. Would I do at all again? The answer has to be a great big YES!! ;D ;D ;D What a happy day! That's a very special moment when they start saying words! I am sure you wont forget this phone call. I am sure you will tell her in a few years and they love hearing things they did when they were babys.
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Post by shaaabear on Oct 16, 2006 20:52:04 GMT 12
Just today my daughter rang me and said "Listen to this mum" next thing I knew my 20 month old granddaughter was on the phone saying "I wuv oooo" Oh the joy, the absolute joy of it all. Would I do at all again? The answer has to be a great big YES!! ;D ;D ;D What a happy day! That's a very special moment when they start saying words! I am sure you wont forget this phone call. I am sure you will tell her in a few years and they love hearing things they did when they were babys. To this day my son and daughter 30 and 29 yrs respectively, often say "mum can you tell us about the time that I/we did such and such" and these stories are retold time and time again and they never fail to have us all in fits of laughter, yes they are certainly memories to be treasured. ;D
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Post by ivyplus on Oct 16, 2006 21:06:38 GMT 12
What a happy day! That's a very special moment when they start saying words! I am sure you wont forget this phone call. I am sure you will tell her in a few years and they love hearing things they did when they were babys. To this day my son and daughter 30 and 29 yrs respectively, often say "mum can you tell us about the time that I/we did such and such" and these stories are retold time and time again and they never fail to have us all in fits of laughter, yes they are certainly memories to be treasured. ;D My 103y old aunty (unfortunately died a month ago) told me several stories about relatives of ours and I wrote them all down. They are so special to me and hopefully to my children. And I am lucky that she gave me many photos (some from early 1900) with the names of these relatives and how we are related. This photo album with the notes will be the only thing I really would save when we would have to leave the house in a rush. She also gave me a silk wedding dress (from 1875). It was worn by one of our relatives and she still knew the name. The wedding dress was made from dark brown silk with black velvet ribbons. When we emigrated to New Zealand I gave this dress to the museum. Mainly because it is made from silk and quite difficult to preserve. I gave them the name of the person as well.
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