Dalbyj
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Post by Dalbyj on Feb 23, 2007 6:58:02 GMT 12
Should it? Does a large age gap mean the relationship won't last? And what if the woman is older than the man, why is this a problem for some people?
Opinions welcomed!
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Post by luxuryflake on Feb 23, 2007 16:29:05 GMT 12
hmmm nice young toyboy, yeah I could handle that when the warrant runs out on the one I have now. LOL ;D
Age shouldn't really make a difference unless it is an adult having a relationship with a minor, that is wrong.
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Post by misilon1 on Feb 23, 2007 18:23:49 GMT 12
yeah it does matter,... to be with someone too much younger than myself is not viable,..unless you have the same interests or background,....at least something a lot in common,..otherwise it can create problems,........indeed,.!
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Post by luxuryflake on Feb 23, 2007 20:30:26 GMT 12
yeah it does matter,... to be with someone too much younger than myself is not viable,..unless you have the same interests or background,....at least something a lot in common,..otherwise it can create problems,........indeed,.! Then it would depend on what you were looking for in a relationship. That chickie that died recently (can't remember her name, sorry) she married that old oil tycoon, obviously for his money. You might enjoy different realtionships for different reasons but how could you measure it against another relationship? I suppose perfection in a relationship might be described as someone who you can satisfy all your wants and needs...so are there any really good looking, mature, unselfish, big biceped, good loving, rough exteriored but totally unselfish, tattooed, bronzed, single oil tycoons available?
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Post by luxuryflake on Feb 23, 2007 20:33:21 GMT 12
Not that I'm looking...LOL
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Dalbyj
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Post by Dalbyj on Feb 23, 2007 21:48:37 GMT 12
My husband is 7 years older than me, and I was married at age 18. I think if my husband had been my age or only a couple of years older our marriage may not have worked ...... but because he was 25 when we married, I think he was sufficiently mature enough to help sustain our relationship. (well he must have been cos we've been happily married over 11 years now!)
I also feel longevity in relationships has something to do with how emotionally mature a person is. When my husband and I first met, I was 17, but he thought I was in my 20s. Maybe I was mentally mature enough to help sustain our relationship - I don't know, but I do know this - we are still very much in love with each other.
Feel free to roll your eyes at the soppiness of that!
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Post by luxuryflake on Feb 23, 2007 21:51:58 GMT 12
My husband is 7 years older than me, and I was married at age 18. I think if my husband had been my age or only a couple of years older our marriage may not have worked ...... but because he was 25 when we married, I think he was sufficiently mature enough to help sustain our relationship. (well he must have been cos we've been happily married over 11 years now!) I also feel longevity in relationships has something to do with how emotionally mature a person is. When my husband and I first met, I was 17, but he thought I was in my 20s. Maybe I was mentally mature enough to help sustain our relationship - I don't know, but I do know this - we are still very much in love with each other. Feel free to roll your eyes at the soppiness of that! Nah thats cool.
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Post by iknow on Feb 24, 2007 9:54:29 GMT 12
I've been going with a man 25yrs my senoir, and loving it
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Post by misilon1 on Feb 24, 2007 10:18:36 GMT 12
Im going to a wedding next month he is 47 she is 55,...they seem to have it all together known each other a couple of years,..Hmmmm yeah,...whatever rows ya boat eh!! Im gonna go for a big kai das all I know ,..
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Post by mpg1 on Feb 28, 2007 12:28:02 GMT 12
My husband is 7 years older than me, and I was married at age 18. I think if my husband had been my age or only a couple of years older our marriage may not have worked ...... but because he was 25 when we married, I think he was sufficiently mature enough to help sustain our relationship. (well he must have been cos we've been happily married over 11 years now!) I also feel longevity in relationships has something to do with how emotionally mature a person is. When my husband and I first met, I was 17, but he thought I was in my 20s. Maybe I was mentally mature enough to help sustain our relationship - I don't know, but I do know this - we are still very much in love with each other. Feel free to roll your eyes at the soppiness of that! May I ask how many significant relationships you had had up to meeting your husband to be?
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Post by Dalbyj on Feb 28, 2007 15:26:21 GMT 12
My husband is 7 years older than me, and I was married at age 18. I think if my husband had been my age or only a couple of years older our marriage may not have worked ...... but because he was 25 when we married, I think he was sufficiently mature enough to help sustain our relationship. (well he must have been cos we've been happily married over 11 years now!) I also feel longevity in relationships has something to do with how emotionally mature a person is. When my husband and I first met, I was 17, but he thought I was in my 20s. Maybe I was mentally mature enough to help sustain our relationship - I don't know, but I do know this - we are still very much in love with each other. Feel free to roll your eyes at the soppiness of that! May I ask how many significant relationships you had had up to meeting your husband to be? I had had one significant relationship, really thought I was going to spend the rest of my life with this guy until he decided that wasn't to be the case! He was also a few years older than me. We are both happily married now and are still friends.
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Post by mpg1 on Feb 28, 2007 20:51:07 GMT 12
7 years at that age is quite a lot of growing, for both of you I would have thought. Good on you both for making it stick.
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Post by ivyplus on Mar 2, 2007 20:52:02 GMT 12
I wish everyone a happy relationship and I can say I am happy in our relationship.
I don't think age is the main hurdle in a relationship.
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Post by luxuryflake on Mar 2, 2007 22:12:16 GMT 12
So...does that mean oasis is realllllly old?
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Post by OasisNZ on Mar 4, 2007 20:16:43 GMT 12
No, Ivyplus is the elder in this household. But my hair started going white when I was twenty one, so visually you wouldn't know the difference if you met us. About 10 years is the gap, if you really must know. I'd say once you are in your thirties and fourties, age has little bearing, also, only my first real relationship was with a younger woman, whom I ended up marrying, since then I have generally always chosen partners more advanced in years than myself.
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Post by mpg1 on Mar 4, 2007 20:23:28 GMT 12
Mostly been with older women. Simply because they seem to know what it takes to make them happy, know where they are going, and have made enough mistakes in life to not only know how to get there, but enjoy the journey. Age doesn't really mean much to me though. It's what's inside that counts, not a number.
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Post by luxuryflake on Mar 4, 2007 21:15:53 GMT 12
No, Ivyplus is the elder in this household. But my hair started going white when I was twenty one, so visually you wouldn't know the difference if you met us. About 10 years is the gap, if you really must know. I'd say once you are in your thirties and fourties, age has little bearing, also, only my first real relationship was with a younger woman, whom I ended up marrying, since then I have generally always chosen partners more advanced in years than myself. I didn't really need to know, I was just taking the piss, at your expense Oasis. No malice in it though.
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Post by OasisNZ on Mar 4, 2007 21:38:42 GMT 12
No, Ivyplus is the elder in this household. But my hair started going white when I was twenty one, so visually you wouldn't know the difference if you met us. About 10 years is the gap, if you really must know. I'd say once you are in your thirties and fourties, age has little bearing, also, only my first real relationship was with a younger woman, whom I ended up marrying, since then I have generally always chosen partners more advanced in years than myself. I didn't really need to know, I was just taking the piss, at your expense Oasis. No malice in it though. Bet you're glad to know a little goss though, haha!
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Post by luxuryflake on Mar 4, 2007 21:41:47 GMT 12
Well...got pics? LOL
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Post by misilon1 on Mar 6, 2007 7:19:34 GMT 12
wow what a cool thread,...nice and lightheartedly revealing ,....lovely peoples you guys
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