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Post by tismeagain on Jun 9, 2007 20:54:37 GMT 12
lorry,
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Post by misilon1 on Jun 9, 2007 20:55:20 GMT 12
I had a wonderful childhood spent most of our time in the outdoors, my Grandparents had beach house on the Kaipara, and we spent all our holidays together as a big extended family, even cats, dogs and chickens came on our holidays with grandparents, parents, aunties uncles and cousins, we had the forest behind us and the beach in front of us, we swam in and out with the tide, had fresh fruit off the trees and freah fish from the ocean so we were pretty healthy kids. When we were at home, my parents worked hard to raise us well, my father was strict to the point that I didn't really have a great relationship with him but I understand now his reasons for being that way. I love my Mum so very much and I loved both my grandmothers dearly. I have Aunties who still look after me and give me advice when I need it. I have very very happy childhood memories. lovely story lux Im going to remember these stories so upbuilding
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Post by tormore on Jun 11, 2007 6:41:46 GMT 12
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Post by ladypenelope on Jun 11, 2007 9:04:01 GMT 12
I can recall way back when refrigerators had only just come on the market. My parents had a very large meat safe,that was used to keep food chilled. Well between my sister and myself we decided we wanted a trolley. So the meat safe had to go, and we demolished it to build this trolley. I can not recall the finer points except my foul tempered father worked night shift. So sis and myself hid under the kitchen table in the morning before school. I can remember trying to work out which would be the best clothing to wear for this beating, would it be better to stay in my pajamas and cover my legs or dressed for school and hope the leather strap connected the arse only. Well I ended up being sent to school with cuts on my legs that showed the gapping flesh. Never tried that again, but the parents got a fridge, He would be locked up if that happened to a kid today. I had no time for him and in fact stayed away from his funeral,as I don't think I would have been able to control my anger. That was only one of many beatings I received,so I do have a hang up over beating kids, but a slap yes if required. That was abuse, not discipline The mental scars will stay with you for life. I was never smacked......... sometimes I would have preferred a quick smack to the verbal rollicking we got.......... 99% of the time, the 2 of us got the same reprimands The advantages of being a twin!!!
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Post by misilon1 on Jun 11, 2007 9:26:57 GMT 12
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Post by Suzie on Jun 11, 2007 9:39:13 GMT 12
I guess like many, my childhood was pretty traumatic, and has certainly left some scars that will never go away. But like everything in life, there were some really special moments too.
My favourite childhood things were my grandfather, the peach tree in the back yard, and my crayons.
My grandfather lost an arm and only had sight in one eye, but there wasn't anything he couldn't do. Even thinking of him now gives me the warm fuzzies. When my grandad cuddled you, you knew you were loved. As a littlie he used to take me down to Adams Bruce's for an icecream and at christmas we would sit and listen to Salvation Army Band for hours. He always seemed to have all the time in the world when it came to me. He called me his 'rambling rose' and would sing me the song whenever he was wiping my tears.
The peach tree, was everything to me, but a peach tree. A space ship, a car, a steam roller, a house, a fortress, never was there such a versitile tree as this one. We didn't have fancy outside toys (except for the dolls pram my mother bought me, which she took off me in disgust when I used it for a Wagon to catch injun's with) no outside toys but we had that tree, and it was anything we wanted it to be.
I spent a lot of time alone as a child and colouring in became my favourite thing to do. I would spend hours and hours making sure the colours were just perfect. My pocket money was spent on a new colouring in book each week. I had stacks of them.
I think no matter how disasterous our childhoods were there are always some happy things to remember rather than the bad.
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Post by tormore on Jun 11, 2007 11:36:17 GMT 12
not always...
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Post by Suzie on Jun 11, 2007 12:27:08 GMT 12
IF you look deep enough, you will find something, because if it was all tears, you would never have learned to smile, and you most certainly would never have learned to laugh. And I know for sure you can laugh, and I presume you smile sometimes, so no matter what, there will be something there that was nice to think about.
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Post by tormore on Jun 11, 2007 13:29:25 GMT 12
IF you look deep enough, you will find something, because if it was all tears, you would never have learned to smile, and you most certainly would never have learned to laugh. And I know for sure you can laugh, and I presume you smile sometimes, so no matter what, there will be something there that was nice to think about. Your logic is of course flawed.How do correlate and adults ability to laugh with your assumption that there must have been something good in their childhood?.You are looking at the world through your own set of rose tinted glasses and a hefty dose of sociology no doubt.I have no childhood memory of not feeling unsafe, unwanted and unloved as an adult I have moved on and taken responsibility for my life as we all should, that does not however provide any evidence of good childhood memories......
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Post by Suzie on Jun 11, 2007 13:34:09 GMT 12
No, none of that, I go simply from basic human development. Babies mimic their caregivers and other people of influence. If no one around you ever smiled then you would not have learned to do so. As one makes oneself smile, then someone must have taught you this skill, and you continued to practise it. I would put everything I own on the fact that at some stage in your childhood, you smiled because you liked something. You just have to remember what it was. To say you NEVER had anything good in your childhood, is not true, what you mean is, you just can't remember anything good, because you either have honestly forgotten it, or choose not to, because it doesn't suit you.
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Post by tormore on Jun 11, 2007 13:41:44 GMT 12
Rubbish...
From birth, newborns pay particular attention to the human face in comparison with other types of visual patterns and the eyes are the most conspicuous feature of the face. Measurements of where babies fixate when looking at a face reveal that they concentrate their gaze on the eye region. We also know that the eye region generates the majority of brain activity in those areas of the brain that process faces in general. When looking at faces, babies cue into eyes from as early as we can measure and this appears to be the basis of early social behaviour. From two to three months, if you gaze at a baby, they will smile back at you, but if you look away, smiling and mutual gaze declines. It seems unlikely that such behaviours are learned but rather reflect a repertoire of behaviours that are built in to kick-start social interaction. So, in a sense, they do not have to 'know how'. It's part of our endowed genetic behavioural pattern to attend to faces in general and eyes in particular.
Professor Bruce Hood, chair of developmental psychology, University of Bristol
(The Guardian, 18.10.06)
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Post by Suzie on Jun 11, 2007 15:45:59 GMT 12
ok, so you've never smiled, you've never laughed, that explains a lot. You have my sympathy.
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Post by tormore on Jun 11, 2007 15:53:10 GMT 12
ok, so you've never smiled, you've never laughed, that explains a lot. You have my sympathy. You are such a literal sarcastic cow, is it any wonder the majority of net users can't stand you?.Carry on, see how many more you can alienate.You are probably best suited to zillion where most of the posters are only too happy to be lectured.
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Post by Suzie on Jun 11, 2007 15:59:40 GMT 12
ok, so you've never smiled, you've never laughed, that explains a lot. You have my sympathy. You are such a literal sarcastic cow, is it any wonder the majority of net users can't stand you?.Carry on, see how many more you can alienate.You are probably best suited to zillion where most of the posters are only too happy to be lectured. Aww, grow up David, you are just too hard to have a conversation with. I just can't be bothered even trying. You know what I was trying to say, that there must have been at least one thing that happened that was nice, but you have to go off on this blardy great campaign,..... you're tiring David, I just don't have the energy or the inclination to have a discussion with someone like you. Sorry.
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Post by tormore on Jun 11, 2007 16:04:46 GMT 12
You are such a literal sarcastic cow, is it any wonder the majority of net users can't stand you?.Carry on, see how many more you can alienate.You are probably best suited to zillion where most of the posters are only too happy to be lectured. Aww, grow up David, you are just too hard to have a conversation with. I just can't be bothered even trying. You know what I was trying to say, that there must have been at least one thing that happened that was nice, but you have to go off on this blardy great campaign,..... you're tiring David, I just don't have the energy or the inclination to have a discussion with someone like you. Sorry. Try looking at the way you post then.And try accepting what people say without putting your own preconceived spin on it.You have no clue what my life was like and I have no intention of trawling through my past on here, your preconception is that life must be ok for all kids some of the time, not true.......
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Post by Suzie on Jun 11, 2007 16:24:08 GMT 12
whatever david. Like I said, you never had a happy time, fine, whatever, I hope those that read my post understand what I was saying. Believe me, I have every reason like you to sit back and hate the world and everyone from my childhood, but I don't, I think about the few good things there were and concentrate on those, and like it or not, whether it be one football goal you scored, or one spelling test you got 10 out of 10, there will be something somewhere in your childhood that was a happy event.
Now like I said David, you are just too tirering for me, everything to do with you is heavy going as far as I am concerned and I just can't be bothered talking to you. Sorry, normally I'd keep trying, but I'm just not inclined to at the moment. Think whatever you like, it's really of no consequence to me, so can you please just not bother to answer me anymore.
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Post by tormore on Jun 11, 2007 16:34:14 GMT 12
whatever, whatever, that exemplifies my point...........
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Post by ladeda on Jun 11, 2007 18:04:21 GMT 12
That's very sad Tormore. My childhood was innocent. Playing with friends, swimming, camping, fishing, many weekend picnics at rivers/lakes in summer and sledding in the snow in winter. We had no money but made do with cars held together with rope and toys made with imagination. If I had children, I would strive to give them the same unobstructed childhood as mine. My life wasn't without tragedy or hardship, but I understand what Suzie was trying to say to Tormore. I focus on the positive and blank out any negatives, determined not to let it dampen my enthusiasm for life.
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Post by tormore on Jun 11, 2007 18:19:22 GMT 12
That's very sad Tormore. My childhood was innocent. Playing with friends, swimming, camping, fishing, many weekend picnics at rivers/lakes in summer and sledding in the snow in winter. We had no money but made do with cars held together with rope and toys made with imagination. If I had children, I would strive to give them the same unobstructed childhood as mine. My life wasn't without tragedy or hardship, but I understand what Suzie was trying to say to Tormore. I focus on the positive and blank out any negatives, determined not to let it dampen my enthusiasm for life. I understand that as well ladeda,suzy doesn't understand that her one size fits all philosophy does not fit everyone.I was not looking to be negative or a downer merely stating fact.
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Post by OasisNZ on Jun 11, 2007 20:31:53 GMT 12
, whether it be one football goal you scored, . My daddy didn't even show up to my first ever game, and he was the Chairman of the New Zealand Football Association. Prick. So I do my darndest to make it to my boys games... This is a good post Tormore... I swear when both my boys were born, (I particularly remember the first one) they looked me straight in the eyes and there was an immediate bond, people tried to tell me it's not possible, as they can't actually see anything when first born, I disagree, "something" happened...
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